All or Nothing

Dating is hard.   On the one side your friends and numerous "helpful" online articles tell you to ignore the person you are interested in.  And on the other side you begin to think why should I pretend to act a way I am not? Sigh.  The Pilot left me wondering if I was ever going to see him again so against all odds I sent him a text that told him I thought he was worth getting to know.   The following are three reasons why you should scrap all the bullish#t and do what you want:

1) No regrets!! At least if he never messages me back I know I put myself out there.  Raw and forward and simple.  I tried.   While my past may be freckled with rejection it is not scarred with the unknown.  When a man brushes me off and I want them, I tell them.  There is no shame in being interested in someone.   And, there is no shame for them if you are interested in them.  In fact, it is a compliment.  I would much rather know that the person I am interested in knows how I feel and chooses not to engage than wonder what if...

2) You did your best!! I see so many people give up on what could have been one hell of a sexy romance too easily.   They never say how they feel or what they want but they some how expect the world to cater to their ideas.   They say crazy things like "if so and so felt the same way they would say so" um, are you mental? If a man walks into your world and shows interest than he has tried and you need to meet him part way.  It must be incredibly scary for one person to blindly try to be with someone.  When I go to sleep and rest well I do so because I damn well tried.  I tried to communicate what I want and why and that is all we can do.

3) He is Mr. Wrong. Dang! You really wanted this one to be around a little longer but it just didn't pan out.  Shake it off.  The truth is if he was the right guy for you he would never be offended by your wanting to be with him.  There is nothing desperate in telling someone you think they are sweet and you want to get to know them...even though these words appear to be my kryptonite.  If he high tails it away from you because you tell him you want to see where things go he is not for you.  Sure, you could have spent weeks or months having no clue what you meant to him but hanging out or you could have the truth.

And, you may have guessed The Pilot's response to my text wasn't good enough. Who knows if he caught another bird or just wasn't interested.  But, fortunately the dating game while challenging is also a lot of fun.  If only I hadn't struck out the other players on the dating field trying to sort this out.  Thanks for reading. XO