"I got sunshine on a cloudy day,
When its cold outside I've got the month of May"
-The Temptations My Girl
I hope that you are not one of those sad girls who curses
pretty little red heart shaped boxes because you may be single! Or you are one
of those anti Halmark haters who curse the consumerism of it all! Valentine’s day is about one thing: love. You don’t have to buy anything and you don’t have
to be taken. You don’t have to be
anything period. In fact you know
what? I give funny cards to my
girlfriends STILL to this day! And I
sometimes make them and I sometimes buy them.
I bake cupcakes for my coworkers.
I embrace this pretty little heart shaped day because each day is what
you make it. So if you are wallowing or
cursing on the day of love! Give your head a shake! Find what you love and be nice about it. In the spirit of being SUPER
CHEESY!! And lovey dovey, this blog is dedicated to four reasons why The
American is totally radical. Hopefully
through my ramblings below you may see what qualities are great in a partner!
1) HE
LISTENS! Yep, he surely does. AND! I don’t
mean in a half ass, “yes dear” patronizing way.
I mean he truly listens. When I
say “I feel like eating, watching, etc... because” or I just plain feel a
certain way he listens and hears me. He
displays this amazing feat by saying things like “I understand, or "I would love
to," (and even sometimes) "I disagree"...etc.” He says something which says that he has heard me. THEN he either says his own feelings on the
subject OR relates a similar story which shows me he truly GETS the words that
I have just said to him. AND! Furthermore
he then formulates a solution based on our conversation. It can be as simple as what to eat, what
movie to watch, to larger relationship issues such as trust but the end result
is always the same. I feel acknowledged,
I feel accepted. I DO NOT feel like he
is brushing off my words with hurtful things like “Oh you are just being crazy,
over reacting, etc...” Nope. Never.
Instead I feel like he sees me as an equal, my feelings are equal to
his, and he truly wants me to be heard.
This is the number on thing among a million that make him the best!
"You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams"
- Dr Suess
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2) HE
IS EMOTIONALLY MATURE (okay most of the time...just kidding!) The American does not ever, ever ignore me
when I call him or text (OF COURSE these conversations are outside of work
hours! Let’s not be too demanding we all have to make a living!). He is open to discussing things like a mature
adult. He does not name call, he does
not place blame, he does not do a million and one immature things that other
men do all the time that I hear about non stop from my girlfriends. Instead he has
conversations with me about ALL things under the sun, no matter how trivial
they may seem. He is open to discussion
about himself and while we are both head strong people he is one hundred
percent open to admitting that he has been in the wrong (as have I we are still
learning our ups and downs after four months of dating you know). He does not pout, or get even, he does not
yell, throw shit, get mean, get nasty, get jealous, he does not get, get! He
instead has the emotional maturity to be in a relationship and this is an
amazing quality to find!
3) HE
DOES NOT BACK DOWN. (Insert Salt and
Pepper Lyrics here “What a Man”) The American does not let me boss him
around. I am bossy. I do not see this as insult either by the way. Bossy means leadership. Bossy means courage. Bossy also means sometimes you are so gung-ho
about something you forget there is someone else involved...unfortunately!
Sorry! But, The American has an uncanny
ability to say “No Thanks.” For this I
give him mad respect! There is nothing worse than a man who has no passions of
his own! No friends, no social life, no drive.
The American says no to doing things that he would just rather not
do. This is awesome! There is nothing
sexier than a man who will say “No Thanks” every once and a while. BUT! A man who always says “No Thanks” IS
TERRIBLE! You can not be chasing him all over town while he says no to putting in effort. There must be balance. The
American has that and for this I will always respect him.
"What a man, what a man, what a man. What a mighty, mighty good man. Yes he is."
-Salt'n'Peppa What a Man
4) HE
HAS A BRAIN! Yep, yes he does.
Intellect! Hot damn it is so fine.
There is nothing hotter than a man who has his wits about him! What’s that you say? He reads books? That is my kind of man!! Outside of the fact
that the American is intellectual (and successful) He also uses this brain to
think of cool things for he and I to do together.
He uses this brain to think while he is out to pick up my favorite drink
or candy bar. He uses this brain to
think of me. This is so flattering. It is also SUCH A RELIEF! Do you know how
tedious it is to be the only person who constantly thinks of what to do? Or to be the only person who buys small
surprises on the regular because you thought of your lover? IT IS THE WORST. The American uses his brain to impress me pretty
much everyday, but perhaps it is his kind heart in the mix too.
That wraps up my love blog for this week! I hope you learned
something about what makes a really great partner and also learned that I care
more deeply for The American more and more.
See what is confusing is that women spend their lifetime being
programmed that love will knock you right out of your boots, throw you to the
moon and then drag you to hell in some kind of twisted Shakespearian love
story, but the truth of the matter is sometimes your “lobster” comes knocking
with a soft hand. He makes life easier,
he touches your heart every day. There
is no drama, there is no tragedy there is only a growing fondness that blossoms
a little more until you really believe that one person might actually be made
for you. You fit together like two happy
peas in a pod and that is what makes me crazy for my guy. Thanks for reading! XOXO
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