Nailed It

Recently someone asked me how I got so comfortable with rejection and being single and the following three points are my answer:

1) Be terrible at finding love.  And, I don't just mean have a few bad flings I mean be truly awful at romance.  Be so tragically bad at it that you fall for the charming guy who promises you the world but never follows through, or the boy next door who's in love with someone else, or your childhood crush turned hottie who's only interested in sewing his wild oats.  Get to the point where your boss rolls his eyes when you mention you met someone, where your parents shake their heads and your best friends are one step away from voodoo because they still have faith.  Be horrifically, terrible at love and accept that fate. 

2) Be an amazing catch.  Use this time of alone-ness to really work on yourself.  Work out hard and eat right.  Get in sexy shape and while working out contemplate all the "feedback" you've received.  Put yourself in others shoes and truly work on yourself.  In the process also forgive others and yourself for any issues and move forward.  Fall in love with yourself and be happy with who you are.

3) Focus on the good.  You're amazing.  There is no doubt about it.  Focus on the positive people and events in your life and always look forward to the next set of great moments.  Do not get lost in anything that may drag you down.  This may also mean avoiding people who are negative. Stay the course.  Stay busy and fill your life with good friends who build you up.  Be complete and when rejection comes you will view it as an opportunity to learn about yourself and an indicator that you tried rather than get down.

And, yes it can be awkward rejecting someone and being rejected when the alternate status is being single.  But, it is better to be alone than with the wrong person. And, it is better to have tried and failed than not. And, yes, I will admit for a moment in time I got lost in a crush again but who has time for focusing on things that will never work out when so many things will. Thanks for reading! XO