Sorry for my absence. To be honest I have been so busy with work that writing took a back seat and I thought this blog might be over. Until today when a phenomena out raged me into this blog. Divorce. When did it become so judged?? When did it become a dirty word?? So many of my amazing friends have endured divorce and they are stronger and wiser. The following are three opinions based on the reality of divorce that hopefully will make you think before you judge.
1) People change. People grow apart. Staying together is not always best. There is some kind of ridiculous stigma of "giving up" associated with divorce that is total bullocks. I have seen just as much divorce as I have marriage and let me tell you they all start the same. All relationships start with the hope of love, soul mates and forever. I know couples who have tried everything!! And in the end they decide to divorce. If for one second you think finding happiness and peace and wanting that for your spouse is giving up than you have never truly loved. You are not giving up, if anything you are trying harder by having faith that you know you will both be happier separated.
2) Married people are miserable. There I said it. Do you know more of my married friends are miserable than my divorced friends?? And my single girlfriends are happier than my taken girlfriends. These statements are based on reality. Marriage does not define anything. It does not make you happier, it does not make you normal. If anything it makes you put up with a lot more sh#t than you would if you were not married. Marriage does not make anyone better than anyone, I am not even going to get into all the affairs I know about here. Marriage is marriage. All it makes you is married, nothing more, nothing less.
3) You know what is best. I don't know why so many women hide divorce. If I ever got divorced I would wear it proudly. It is not a failure, it is not negative. It means you tried marriage. Do you know I know a lot of people on their second and third marriages?? There is nothing wrong with divorce if that is what you want. Do not be ashamed. Every ending is a beginning and only you know what is best. F#ck everyone else's opinions when it comes to divorce, because they are not the ones living in your marriage.
Lastly, don't let anyone tell you did not marry your soul mate. You are not the princess in a fairy tale. You are a real person. You have many real loves and I will tell you if you don't find the lovers who shake you up and lead you to find who you really are than you will remain incomplete. The truth is you may find your most amazing life all on your own. There is no shame in divorce, there is only shame in judging others based on their marital status.
