Toxic

Some times in life we have to let go of sh#t people and sh#t circumstances and become truly healthy.  This means cutting the strings of toxic relationships that are weighing you down.  The following are three warning signs of toxicity.

1) People that put you down.  And, I don't mean when your bff recently told you she didn't like the bob you rocked in grade nine put down.  I mean when someone puts you right down.  When a person insults you, they are toxic.  Don't forget misery loves company.  For many years I tried to think that those people needed attention and friendship but the truth is anyone who spends time insulting you doesn't actually deserve a second of your time.

2) People who discourage you.  Have you ever been around a person that really sucks the life right out of you? They suggest that you can't get a better man, house, job, etc.  Well let me tell you, you can do whatever and get whatever you want in this life.  Haters gonna hate.  Toxic people don't like others to succeed.  They prefer that otters don't try and they often manipulate people around them so whenever a person tries to tell you that you cannot do something evaluate your relationship with that person.

3) People who manipulate you.  Toxic friends will make you feel bad and do things you don't really want to do.  They will not care about your comfort level or what you want to do.  They are selfish.  They will feed on your insecurities and lure you into what makes them happy.  If you feel unhappy and like you aren't ever doing what you want with someone again reevaluate.

As we grow older we grow stronger.  As a survivor of domestic abuse I personally can see the red flags of toxic people early.  However toxicity exists in our friendships and families.  Don't sacrifice your happiness for misplaced loyalty.  Thanks for reading.